Marriage and Family Therapy Discussions
Oh boy, have we been making some big moves. Near the end of 2018 Sierra Family Therapy, changed to Sierra Therapy Center. We didn’t change anything inside the company, we are all the same wonderful group of caring individuals, we just changed the name on the signs and paperwork. We also got a new website, www.sierratherapycenter.com, please go by the page and share it with everyone to help us get the word out.
Some other exciting big changes that happened at the end of 2018. We went from having two locations with 4 offices to having 3 locations, and 7 offices. We now have two locations in downtown Grass Valley, and one in the heart of Nevada City. Along with the expansion came some extremely talented individuals that we got the pleasure of adding to our team.
Meet Simone Weit, Simone came to the field of Mental Health after leaving a prospective medical career to travel the world serving children and the elderly in developing countries, as well as yoga to girls in juvenile hall. Simone has worked with teens, children and their families all
throughout Nevada County! Simone likes to use mindfulness, trauma-informed yoga, expressive arts, play therapy, sand tray, collaborative problem solving, cognitive behavioral therapy and the work of Dan Seigel. Simone believes that healing is not a one-size-fits-all process! We are delighted to have Simone coming on as part of the team, welcome Simone! Simone is working out of our new office location, 696 Whiting Street Grass Valley, CA 95945!
We also got the pleasure of adding Steven Cooper to our team. Steven has vast experience with working with culturally diverse populations, crisis and trauma. He has firsthand experience as a therapy patient, and can realize firsthand the vulnerability inherent in sharing one’s innermost pain, fears, and insecurities. “Of particular importance to me is awakening within you the two A’s. Acceptance and Anticipation. Through these two ‘ways of being’, I sense that one becomes more in touch with themselves and the world around them. After all, life will continue to being about struggle, loss and unexpected peril. We yearn to unearth the ability to cope through Life’s endeavors, come what may. It is so important to fortify the body, mind and soul because you go on, in spite of Life’s happenings. You are ever moving, even when you feel stagnant. You are dynamic.” Steven will also be joining Simone in our new office location at Whiting Street! Welcome Steven!
Along with all these changes we would like to reach out in the community and help out more. Sierra and her team in the process right now of building a self-help book store. This store will be run out of the Whiting Office. Sierra’s dream is to have a lending library, and to be able to help our community reach the self-help reading materials that their mind, body and soul desires!
Happy 2019 from us to you! Here’s to another year full of growth, dreams, achievements and goals! Thank you all for all your support!
Gratitude seems to be the new hot word lately. I have to admit, I'm bought in.Yes, I do believe in the power of positive thoughts, affirmations and quantum attraction. Today, I decided to do some research on the science behind gratitude in relationships (being that I'm a relationship therapist) and came across a very interesting research study from the University of Georgia. The study revealed that a key ingredient to improving marriages is gratitude. Believing that your spouse deeply appreciates and values you directly influences how you feel about your relationship and your spouse in turn as well as your level of relational commitment. In fact, spousal expression of gratitude was the number one predictor of marriage quality.
I often get asked what my approach is to couples work. I always respond that I pull from many theories depending on the needs of my couple. One theory that I often use is EFT. Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) is an approach to couples therapy that looks at the attachment bond between couples and instead of seeing the conflict as a problem, we look at conflict in terms of unmet need. For example, partner one complains that the other never has time for them and is always rushing about and partner b says that partner a does not really care about them and has no appreciation. Possible unmet needs in this scenario might be that partner a feels uncared for, unlovable and not good enough. Partner b may be feeling unseen, unappreciated and unloved. When I work with my couples I am looking for these unmet needs. I work to build a solid foundation of communication and then uncover these needs. Together, we heal these and work to see the challenge as a team. The challenge is healing one another's (each partner working to heal the others) unmet need.
Here is a resource for a great book, Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson (founder of EFT) http://drsuejohnson.com/books/
Call for an appointment. We accept most insurances including Anthem Blue Cross and many Medi-Cal plans (530)913-5054
I wish you healing and health! Happy New Year 2018!
Therapy is a way to get in touch with yourself, get to know yourself and get to know other people as well. Another way is through personality testing like the Myers-Briggs personality test and the Enneagram.
The Myers-Briggs a few times to help direct me in career choices but not as often used as a tool for self-discovery.
There is a great book: The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile. Reading this book, one can be better understood as to why they react in certain ways to life events, relationships, etc.
What Is the Enneagram?
The Enneagram is a model of human personality that involves nine interconnected personality types. Each personality is represented by a number.
The Nine Types
Here are the nine personality types as described by Cron and Stabile:
Type One: The Perfectionist. Ethical, dedicated and reliable, they are motivated by a desire to live the right way, improve the world, and avoid fault and blame.
Type Two: The Helper. Warm, caring and giving, they are motivated by a need to be loved and needed, and to avoid acknowledging their own needs.
Type Three: The Performer. Success-oriented, image-conscious and wired for productivity, they are motivated by a need to be (or appear to be) successful and to avoid failure.
Type Four: The Romantic. Creative, sensitive and moody, they are motivated by a need to be understood, experience their feelings and avoid being ordinary.
Type Five: The Investigator. Analytical, detached and private, they are motivated by a need to gain knowledge, conserve energy and avoid relying on others.
Type Six: The Loyalist. Committed, practical and witty, they are worst-case scenario thinkers who are motivated by fear and the need for security.
Type Seven: The Enthusiast. Fun, spontaneous and adventurous, they are motivated by a need to be happy, to plan stimulating experiences and to avoid pain.
Type Eight: The Challenger. Commanding, intense and confrontational, they are motivated by a need to be strong and avoid feeling weak or vulnerable.
Type Nine: The Peacemaker. Pleasant, laid back and accommodating, they are motivated by a need to keep the peace, merge with others and avoid conflict.
Each Type Has a Deadly Sin. This is because each strength often has weakness or can become out of balance into something possibly unhealthy.
Your Type and Your Marriage/Relationship
By looking at your type you can begin to look at how you interrelate in relationship to others. This often comes from early childhood modeling and/or possible traumas.
To test yourself: https://www.eclecticenergies.com/enneagram/dotest.php
Need Counseling? Contact us for therapy in Grass Valley and/or Nevada City area 530-913-5054